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<\/figure>\n\n\n- What Does It Mean To Force Love?<\/a><\/li>
- How Do You Know if Someone is Forcing Themselves to Love You?<\/a><\/li>
- Don’t Force Them to Love You! Let Them Come To You<\/a><\/li>
- Why Can’t You Force Someone to Love You?<\/a><\/li>
- In Conclusion<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n
What Does It Mean To Force Love?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
There’s not really a clear explanation of what it means to force love. It’s certain behaviors that can, in other circumstances, be read as an affectionate husband or wife taking care of their significant other. But when you do it to someone who clearly has no interest in you, you’re trying to force them to love you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This can be true of married couples, and it can be true for single people. If you find someone you have an obsession with, you might find yourself thinking that you can make them see the light. What follows is an example that should help you understand this faulty reasoning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s a man and a woman, and the man loves the woman very much. The woman, however, feels nothing for the man. The man can sense this and will try to shower the woman with attention and gifts. He will consistently try to communicate with her and will start exhibiting borderline stalker behavior. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
He thinks to himself, “I will show her that I’m different from the other guys. I’m a really great guy, she just doesn’t see it yet.” <\/em>He\u2019s trying to force her to love him. The woman starts to worry about the behavior of the male. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
She will block him on social media<\/a>, and he will proceed to make new accounts to explain his love to her. She starts to feel fear, “This man is unhinged.” <\/em>she says to herself. It all spirals out of control from there.<\/p>\n\n\n
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A worried woman lying on sofa.<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n Forcing love is essentially trying to cause someone to have Stockholm syndrome without actually kidnapping them. <\/strong>It goes like this: “If I spend all my time with this person, they will love me. If I don’t talk to them enough, they won’t notice me.” <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
It’s a toxic mindset that is prevalent throughout the incel community. It borders on danger, especially when people who aren’t mentally stable develop an obsession with someone they like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For a more tangible example that you can witness in reality, grab two magnets. When you have your magnets, try pressing the two magnets together at the ‘south pole’ part. They will push each other away. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now lay one magnet on a smooth table and hold the other one in your hand while you try to push the one into the one on the table. What happens? The magnet on the table moves further and further away the more you try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How Do You Know if Someone is Forcing Themselves to Love You?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
If you’re already in a relationship that has been going on for years, you might find it difficult to know if the person you’re with you is out of fear of being alone, or if they’re with you because they genuinely love you. There are a few tell-tale signs that the person you’re with has lost a great deal of interest in you. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
The first, and probably the most obvious for the observant, is the way they look at you. If you catch them looking at you, there will be disappointment or boredom in their eyes. They’ll fake smiles. They’ll always look dead in the eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They might also stop wanting to go places with you. They may stop asking you how your day went at work. They might even try giving subtle hints about the way they’re feeling. You can’t force yourself to love someone, but you can give the illusion that you’re trying. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
People simply get bored of other people, and that’s okay. What’s not okay is holding onto the person you love when it should be fairly obvious that they aren’t happy with you. In situations like this, it’s best to have a heart-to-heart with the person you love. <\/strong>Tell them that you\u2019ve noticed that they don’t seem as enthused about the relationship as they were in the past. <\/p>\n\n\n
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Couple not having a good conversation.<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n They will, out of some atavistic reflex, deny that they’re bored of you. They\u2019re as afraid of being alone as you are, but you should make it clear that it’s better to be alone than it is to be with someone who doesn’t make them happy. The ultimate sign of love is giving your person the ability to be free.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Trying to hold onto someone because you love them is selfish, arrogant behavior. Tell them how you feel<\/a> about them, then give them the key to their cage. Let them make the decision on whether or not you two will stay together. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
They’ll either leave or stay, and you can say you did all that you could to sort the situation out without resorting to desperate behavior. Be an adult, and don’t throw an emotional tantrum whenever they leave you.<\/strong> It may hurt, but in the long run, you have a 99% chance of getting over them and moving on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don’t Force Them to Love You! Let Them Come To You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
This was covered briefly in the previous section, but not at length. You can’t force someone to love you, nor should you even attempt to do such a thing. This is true for marriages, long-term relationships, and people you’ve never even dated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Love is like a Chinese finger trap. The harder you try to force it, the more stuck you’re going to be. But as soon as you relax and just let life take its course, you’ll find that it’s much easier to navigate your way out of these sticky situations. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In other words: you HAVE to let them come to you. There’s nothing you can do to make someone see you as valuable to them if they’ve already made up their mind. In fact, you\u2019re going to make your situation worse by trying to show them how great of a person you think you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You HAVE to let them go.<\/strong> As previously mentioned, your best course of action is to just tell them how you feel and then drop it. If they feel the same way, they’ll find their way to you. If they don’t then it’s incumbent upon you to not press the issue. If your feelings are that strong, you need to delete<\/a> your social media and their number. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You don’t want anything in your life that\u2019s going to trigger you into begging for a chance\/second chance. If you go down that road, you are going to affirm every belief they’ve ever had about you is unhealthy for them. And if you press the issue after they tell you to stop, there’s a good chance you’ll chase them into another person’s arms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you tell them that you’re walking away, then walk away. Otherwise, you’re going to be seen as pathetic or insane. If they want you in their life, they will let you know. They will contact you first. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If they don\u2019t, you need to move on. Find other people to hang out with and keep your time occupied. <\/strong>Don’t spend precious moments worrying about someone who couldn\u2019t care less about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you maintain an aura of calm, cool, and collectedness then the person you want will notice that you can live without them. This behavior is great to have in general, but it’s especially good for making it clear that you don’t need the person in your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You don’t have to be a dick to them, but you should make it known that you’re not going to get hung up on them. When they see that you’re serious about your convictions, they\u2019ll start to gradually make their way back towards you. If they don’t, then you did all you could do and it’s time to move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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