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<\/figure>\n\n\n- Introduction<\/a><\/li>
- Seven Things Not To Do When Asking A Girl Out Over Text<\/a>
- 1. Aggressive<\/a><\/li>
- 2. Lack of Confidence<\/a><\/li>
- 3. Obstrusive<\/a><\/li>
- 4. Overconfident\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/a><\/li>
- 5. Inappropriate<\/a><\/li>
- 6. Assuming<\/a><\/li>
- 7. Don’t engage if she’s not interested<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li>
- 5 Examples of How to Ask a Girl Out Over Text<\/a>
- 1.\u00a0\u00a0 Timing<\/a><\/li>
- 2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Plan your move<\/a><\/li>
- 3.\u00a0\u00a0 Memorable date<\/a><\/li>
- 4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Find other time<\/a><\/li>
- 5.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Be Creative<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li>
- How Do You Flirt With A Cute Girl Over Text?<\/a><\/li>
- Conclusion<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n
Introduction<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Though, before you even think about asking that girl out you need to have some sense of mutual interest. What I mean by that is that the girl you’re interested in has to be showing you some sort of interest back or you\u2019re just setting yourself up for failure. You don’t want to be one of those guys (or girls, or non-binary friends) that ask out a girl only to find out that they were never even thinking about you too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
That’s embarrassing to both parties and could be devastating to your self-esteem. No one wants that, so make sure she likes you as well by paying attention to her. <\/strong>Get to know her better and if it seems like she’s showing the same kind of interest in you, go for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Young man having a crush on a girl.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n Honestly, asking a girl out over text isn’t that difficult, but there are a few things that you need to avoid if you want to be successful. Keep these things in mind as you talk to the girl you’re interested in. But also keep in mind that this is subjective and isn’t a sure-fire way to get a girl to go out with you. Every girl is different. These are just basic guidelines.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You want to have some sort of established friendship with the girl that you like before you jump into things. This means talking to her for a while and getting to know her. <\/strong>Find out the things that she is interested in and make sure that you like her for more than what she looks like. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you get to know her a bit, try flirting with her some and see how that is received. If things are going well then I would say you should move forward in asking her out. Keep in mind that there is a right way and a wrong way to ask someone out, especially over text.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Seven Things Not To Do When Asking A Girl Out Over Text<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Aggressive<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
The first thing that you want to avoid when asking a girl out over text is to not seem too assertive. While some girls like assertiveness, there comes a point when it can come across as aggressive and that is something that you definitely don’t want to happen when you’re trying to woo a girl. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Man texting spontaneously while sitting on his desk.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n This can happen very easily in text messages because our emotions aren\u2019t always clear and are subjective to the person reading the message. <\/strong>To you, that excited exclamation point can be harmless, but to her, it might come off as a bit too much. So, just be careful how you phrase things and how you punctuate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Another thing to avoid to needlessly spamming her. If she isn’t answering you then there is likely a reason behind it. She may be busy and if you continue to needlessly text her over and over you can come across as aggressive and pushy. Wait for her to get back to you and be patient.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Lack of Confidence<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Never make it seem like she would be doing you a favor to go out with you. What I mean by that is you making it seem like she’s too good for you. This shows her that you lack confidence and self-worth. No one is better than anyone else. It also makes it seem like you want something from her but will give nothing in return. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Relationships are supposed to be equal give and take,<\/strong> so if she thinks that you have nothing to offer then she is more likely to say no when you ask. It can also be offputting when someone doesn’t value themselves as much as they should.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Obstrusive<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Don’t make a big deal out of it. This is especially true if she tells you no. The last thing that you want to do is make the girl you\u2019re trying to ask out feel pressured and uncomfortable. This is even more true when you\u2019re asking through text message. If you are comfortable with this girl already, then asking her out should be natural and easy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Stressed woman reading text on a smartphone.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n If she tells you no or seems unsure then drop the subject. Things might be awkward between the two of you for a bit, but showing her that you respect her decision will at least salvage some part of your relationship unlike if you push yourself too far and make her uncomfortable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can still be friends with the girl you like even if she doesn’t like you back. <\/strong>It’s not a bad thing to be friends if the girl isn\u2019t the one for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Overconfident <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Just like you don’t want to make yourself seem like you don’t have confidence, you don’t want to seem overconfident. Don’t oversell yourself. You have to be careful with how you present yourself, especially over text since a lot of texting is subjective to how it’s read. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You shouldn’t have to overdo yourself, however, let the conversations with this girl flow naturally. Avoid using too many exclamation marks or emojis.<\/strong> Avoid grand statements altogether. What that means is, don’t tell her how she’s going to feel about something or someone. That’s a recipe for disaster and a surefire way to make her feel uncomfortable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. Inappropriate<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
An important thing to keep in mind when asking a girl out is to keep it professional<\/strong>. What I mean by that is you don’t want to put too much of yourself out there. No girl likes a picture that they didn’t ask for. Basically don’t be inappropriate with this girl. That is very offputting and rude, especially if they don’t specifically ask for the picture you’re sending. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n\n\n\nThe same can be said about overly sexual texts. If she isn’t asking you to text her like that, then please don’t. It can and will make her very uncomfortable and put her off when you’re ready to ask her out. There is more to a relationship than sex. Get to know her and the things that she is interested in. More importantly, wait until she is ready to pursue more than a civil relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
6. Assuming<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
When it comes to asking a girl out, you should never assume anything. If the girl you’re talking to doesn’t explicitly say something then don’t assume that it is true. Of course, there have to be some assumptions made if she doesn’t flat out tell you that she likes you and you’re trying to figure that out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But keep in mind that the girl you’re talking to has feelings and thoughts of her own. Basically, let her think for herself when it comes to asking her out, and don’t assume that she’s going to say yes. <\/strong>If she does say yes then the hard part is over, but you should still never assume things about your date unless she tells you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
7. Don’t engage if she’s not interested<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Finally, and probably the most important thing you should avoid when asking a girl out at all, but especially over text is something I touched on earlier. Make sure that you have a positive response from her before you even try asking her out.<\/strong> You have to know that she’s interested in you, or at least suspect it enough to make your move. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It can be scary to meet up with a new potential partner for both you and her, but this is doubly true for her. She is likely nervous and uncomfortable. This is doubly true if you’ve only ever talked to her through text. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Make sure she is laughing at your jokes, sending you emojis, and giving you more than one or two-word responses. Basically, she needs to be engaged<\/strong> and it doesn’t need to feel forced or that’s how the date is going to feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
- 2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Plan your move<\/a><\/li>
- 2. Lack of Confidence<\/a><\/li>
- Seven Things Not To Do When Asking A Girl Out Over Text<\/a>