Signs That A Man Is Pursuing You? Here are 20 Signs To Look Out For

There are quite a few subtle signs that men give off when they’re interested in women (and they’re not always the same ones you might think).

If you can’t tell if a man is flirting with you or just being friendly, don’t worry, you’re not alone. You’re not only interested in relationships, and you don’t want to be barraged by unwanted phone calls from every guy who’s hit on you.

You know that asking questions about your date isn’t the way to keep him around, so you don’t have to worry about being crowded with constant inquiries.


Signs That A Man Is Pursuing You

If you want to figure out whether he likes you or if he just wants to be friends, consider the following 20 signs that a man is pursuing you.

1.     He spends a lot of time around your friends

From the restaurant where you go after work to the bar where you hang out, you know that he’s been there before and will be there again. If you see him walking with your friends or introducing them to his friends, find out what they have in common.

Laughing with friends.

You might just find that he likes hanging out with your group and thinks you’re cute, or maybe it’s the other way around.

2.     He wants to hang out at your house

You might have thought about having him over for dinner, and maybe you planned to make sure he was on the right train to get home when all was done. When he’s ready to leave, however, you don’t see him heading toward the subway or bus stop; you notice that he’s walking toward your front door. You can invite him in or not.

3.     He listens to what you say

The best way to ensure he’s listening is by waiting for a nod, hum, or something that lets you know that he heard what you said and wants to respond thoughtfully. When you’re talking, he doesn’t wait for you to stop so he can jump in with his own opinion. He lets you finish what you have to say before he responds in his own words.

4.     He asks leading questions

If he’s interested, he might not always ask you to clarify exactly what you meant; he might take a shot in the dark and ask where you’re going with something. He knows that the best way to get to know someone is to ask questions and give open-ended and broad answers.

5.     He doesn’t make excuses when you’re around all of your friends

He doesn’t put up a smoke screen when you’re out with the girls and tries to slip away quickly. He likes your friends and doesn’t mind hanging around after everyone else has left the bar or restaurant to catch up with you before or after you leave.

6.     He invites himself to your events

He wants to be there for you when it matters, so he might ask about your plans for the weekend instead of waiting until you talk about them.

He’s not afraid to show up at the places you want to be, and he’s not asking for a favor; he just knows that you want him to be there.

7.     He takes your phone number, but only the good one

He might ask if he can have your phone number, but it’s never the generic “we should get together sometime” kind of voicemail. He wants to call you because he thinks you’re great and wants to hear your voice.

A guy reading a text over the phone while having coffee.

8.     He doesn’t forget the things you say

The best way to know if someone is interested in you is if they pay attention to the things that make you who you are. Even if he doesn’t understand everything, he will remember the most important things, like saying that your favorite color is blue or that you like long walks on the beach (even though we never had a conversation about it).

9.     He wants a second date

You have to be careful with this one because some people will ask for another date even when they know there won’t be another one. If you don’t want to see him anymore, give an excuse that sounds good or say you’re busy. You can always ask him out again if your date goes well and he’s still interested.

10.     He doesn’t want to be just friends

Do you find yourself hanging out with your friends, and then he shows up in the mix? He might not pressure you to go on a date, but he wants to meet the people who are so important to you.

11.     He wants to do things with you, not the people he’s around all the time

If you’re talking to someone interested, they want to be around you and not the people they would be with if they were just hanging out. They want to get away from their friends, even if it’s only for a short while.

12.     He likes your Facebook status updates

If he likes what you post on Facebook, he wants to see what you have going on in your life. It could also mean that he wants you to know how cool he thinks your friends are, including you.

13.     He’s the type of guy you’re happy to see at the end of a long day

If he’s the type of guy you don’t want to see at the very beginning of a day, but it doesn’t matter how late in the evening you want to see him, he might be your type. He wants to see you enough that he doesn’t mind waiting around in the city or at least as long as it takes to get a drink.

14.     He sends you text messages on your birthday

Happy birthday isn’t just for interested people; he wants to wish you a happy birthday even if it’s not one of those days that he’s spending with you because he knows that your life is busy and there are people bigger than him who deserve your attention.

15.     You feel comfortable around him

When you’re having a good time, you know it’s with him because you don’t feel like he’s trying to make something out of nothing. He simply wants to hang out and enjoy himself the same as you.

16.     He’s a gentleman

Is he polite when he talks to the bartender, holds doors open, or offers to get the check? Even if this is just part of his personality, he’s showing how he treats people and what kind of man he is. If you think this is sincere, then there’s even more reason to think that he likes you enough to make it more than friendship.

Gentleman protecting his lady from rain.

17.     He makes you feel like you’re the most important person in the room

He has no problem saying that he thinks you’re pretty, or that you’re smart, or any other compliment that he wants to give. He may not say it every time, and he might not mean it every time, but if his behavior shows that he thinks about what you need and wants to make sure you are happy no matter how busy he might be, then the way that he treats women shows how much he likes them.

18.     He will discuss your flaws

This one is tricky: if you want him to like you, you don’t want him to tell you that your eyebrows look like a caterpillar. But if you’re looking for someone who will be honest with you about the things that matter, then this is a great sign because he might be willing to tell you what’s wrong with your outfit before it happens or even when it doesn’t happen, he wants to help out.

19.     He calls when he says he will call

It could be a coincidence, but he called on time after the first couple of dates. Even if he’s in a different time zone or discussing different plans for the next day, he wants you to know that he likes you and will think about you when it matters.

20.     He has faults, but you like him anyway

Some guys make it hard to like them, but he doesn’t want you to think of them as perfect. There are things about him that might not seem to matter too much, but if it bothers you, say something, and don’t give up on getting the relationship you really want.

How Do You Know If A Guy Is Genuinely Interested?

There are ways to determine if someone is interested in you, and these are some of them. When a man gives you the attention you are looking for, it is possible that he is genuinely interested in you and wants to build a relationship with you. However, he might simply be playing a game of cat and mouse, so be on your guard.

1.     He is attentive, and he makes you feel good

When you are with an interested man, he will make you feel very special. He’ll be attentive to your needs, listening to what you have to say and making sure that he’s paying attention even if it doesn’t seem like he’s doing anything other than what anyone else would do. If this keeps happening on every date, then this shows that he truly wants a relationship with you.

2.     He gives good compliments

One of the best ways to know if a man likes you is when he tells positive things about you, even if it’s something small that can be changed or something larger but still true. Men know what women want to hear and will say it to get them into bed. However, if the man is honest about it, then it’s a good sign that he is interested in the long term.

3.     He keeps his word on plans

The man who has no problem saying no will never have a problem standing up for what he wants. If he makes you a promise, then he sticks to it even if it means having to break it and telling you that he hasn’t forgotten about your date because something came up at work or something else happened during his day.

4.     He is appreciative

You can tell that he appreciates your time and attention if he shows it through his actions. If he does something special for you without you asking for it, he’s trying to ensure that you know how important you are to him.

5.     He pays attention to your needs

Interested men will tell you what they want out of a relationship while still dating because they want to know what they have to offer. If the man has different ideas about how he wants the relationship, then he will also tell you what’s important to him and why.

6.     He makes it clear that he’s interested

You can tell the difference between liking and loving, but you can also distinguish between a man interested in your friendship and one who wants to keep you available for dating. If he makes it obvious that he wants something more than just spending time with you, then there’s a good chance he’s genuinely interested.

7.     He shows an interest in your family

If the man is interested in making sure that you have someone in your life to help keep you happy and safe, he will ask about where you come from and what kind of upbringing you had. He will also ask about his role in your life and the kind of person he can be for you.

8.     He doesn’t make you feel like a one-night stand

If he’s interested in you and you enjoy each other’s company, he will respect your boundaries. If what he wants is easy, then it would be too much work to want you more and try to make something long-term out of it, but if what he wants is not too difficult to do, then you both have something real between the two of you.

9.     He’s optimistic about the future

Another sign that he’s interested in you and wants a relationship, rather than just having sex or spending time with you, is that he is positive about the future. He knows what he wants out of this relationship and is willing to make it happen.


If you are looking for a way to know if a man is interested, consider these tips. If he does these things for you and seems to be doing them for the right reasons, then he might be the man you’re looking for.

However, if it feels like he’s doing things that are simply because everyone else does them and not because he likes the person that you are, then there’s a good chance that all of this will fall apart at some point.

When it falls apart, take time to figure out what happened. There’s a good chance it was your fault, but don’t let the one-night stand label ruin the rest of your life.

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About Jerome Glover

Hi! My name is Jerome and I am a writer/editor for GentlemenCenter. I have a passion for helping men improve themselves, and I hope my writing will be able to help you in anything you may need!

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